So much time and literary publications and researches have been done to understand What do women want. By doing so have we neglected the men? Here are few things that men wish women knew.
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- We are overloaded with lots of information about you and it can be overwhelming.
- Sometimes we don’t know whether to be chivalrous or feminist.
- It bothers us when you complain about “men.”
- Sometimes we feel like we are performing for your friends.
- We don’t know if this thing we’re doing is annoying or endearing.
- We feel disrespected when we don’t see you put in an effort to have fun around our friends
- We are afraid of losing you
- Make up
- Straight to the point
- Single task studs
- Doing nothing
- Don’t talk to us about your exes
We are overloaded with lots of information about you and it can be overwhelming.
Our mother,brothers,father, friends, movies, books, and songs have all been telling me how to treat you and what to say to you. We have heard about 50 contradicting absolutes about you, and we don’t know which one to listen to. Not saying that you should adjust your expectations of us but…perhaps some flexibility would help.
Sometimes we don’t know whether to be chivalrous or feminist.
Should we stand up for you or can you do that yourself? Should we throw my coat over this puddle or will you be upset about the dry cleaning bill? Should we contradict you in public to reinforce my belief in your autonomous viewpoint or should we not embarrass you like that? “I love you and believe in you” so…maybe we could work out a cue or something?
It bothers us when you complain about “men.”
Probably not in the same way as it would bother us to talk about “women” (there are historical dynamics there), but it is still annoying and can be hurtful. When we watch men jumping out of their couch with a bowl of chips on a Bud Light commercial, that pisses some of us off.We are not that, and when we get lumped in with some beer-guzzling, fantasy sports playing “average joe” we feel misunderstood and undervalued.
Sometimes we feel like we are performing for your friends.
The scoring system in this performance is daunting – it’s like we get one point for doing something right, and minus twelve points for doing something wrong.When you widen your eyes and make that really seething, burning look, we never, ever know what that means.” I know I’ve done something wrong. That’s obvious. But should I stop talking? Should I change the subject? Should I look at someone else? What piece of data am I missing here?”
We don’t know if this thing we’re doing is annoying or endearing.
We don’t know if this particular behavior is going to be categorized as a facet of our rugged individuality that you ultimately love and respect us for, or if it’s something for which you’re going to break up.
We feel disrespected when we don’t see you put in an effort to have fun around our friends
When we really work hard to get your friends to like us, and we don’t know if you’re putting in the same effort. This isn’t a Hollywood bro movie but – We like our friends and we think they might feel bad that you look so bored.
We are afraid of losing you
We feel jealous when you give attention to other men, but afraid that if we express that jealousy it will drive you away. So we swallow it, and we shouldn’t. We don’t want to be covetous and I don’t own you – but we are not yet self-actualized to the point where we can fully handle this specific type of stress.Ultimately we want you to be happy, even if that means happy without us.
Most guys don’t like make-up. Its annoying when a girl takes too much effort to add flavour to her face.This is not good because if a girl is confident that she is pretty why add some things to her body?
Straight to the point
Guys don’t get clues. The subtle hints, gentle gestures, elegant suggestions don’t work on guys. When you want them to change themselves the best thing to do is tell them straight to the point.
Single task studs
While a girl can multitask, a guy mostly can do only one task at a time with perfection. That’s how he is wired.
Every guy is capable of doing nothing. He doesn’t lie. You see your boyfriend sitting idle doing nothing. “He is DOING NOTHING”. He doesn’t think, he doesn’t contemplate, he doesn’t compare. He just doesn’t do anything.
No guy can handle all his problems on his own. No matter how great a guy is, he needs support and a listening heart. He’s just too stubborn to admit it.
Don’t talk to us about your exes
We know that you have likely dated other men before us, but this is one of the things we’d rather not have to visualize details about.
And finally – If I tell you what is about to happen in this scary/thrilling movie, then there won’t be any *suspense.* Without the suspense, there is NO point in watching the movie!