West in general is a more open culture while Asia is a bit shy than others. A little traveling should give you ample info on this. You’ll notice there are plenty of differences in the ways of people form Asia and the rest of the world. Some may not be apparent outright or applicable at all. But they are there and rescue is at hand. A little knowledge should take you a long way if you are planning to date an Asian or just try out something different in your relationship. Here are the 5 relationship tips the westerners can take from the Asians to Intermingle.
1. A submissive demeanor of the Asian Girls
I’m just talking about your average Asian girl’s general outer appearance. All cultures have all kinds of people but most Asian women have a soft disposition. They’ll most likely go on to party hard, be loud, be extrovert as anything or be a practicing blackbelt after you mix but they start out rather calm. And no I don’t mean they are two faced. It is just that way. It is probably a cultural thing. Your average Asian lover man takes this as a given too. A nifty little tip for those white girls out there to woo gentlemen from across the seas.
2. Asian guys fight for the bill
When the dinner cheque arrives at the table, the Asian guy will swoop in like a properly trained ninja and attack the dinner cheque before you can even do that “reach” for your wallet. This swift technique is an ancient move passed on by his ancestors – a learned behavior through many many years watching his parents challenge their opponents to who gets to the cheque first. White guys are much more laid back and are happy to carry on the conversation for another 30 minutes while the check is laying on the table; some are even willing to go dutch to further showcase their support towards gender equality. Good or bad ? Well at least the overwhelming willingness is a good gesture and does show care.
3. A good relationship should end in marriage
I wanted to drop this bombshell earlier but times are changing. Nevertheless it stands fairly true in Asia. Although Asian guys might take awhile to confess their undying love, but that’s only because they like to take it slow. And when they do, they want to be sure that she’s the one. The case is same with Asian girls. This is merely because they want it to end in a life long tie-up approved by law and all. Isn’t that the best formula ? They have less divorces too.
4. How thoughts are expressed
Though we observe numerous nuances from country to country, in general, Westerners are more direct in their relationships than the most Asians; they feel freer to express refusals, or to speak their mind, their true thoughts and feelings. French culture allows for a degree of ‘double meaning’, while the Germans or the Americans make a point of expressing their thoughts explicitly. But from a Asian point of view, nuances like these hardly count at all. Further a perception of brutally aggressiveness is portrayed. Talking soft and clear to your partner probably a better option ?
5. Public display of affection is a no
Traditional Asian parents show love through immense generosity, helping out financially, and feeding you 24/7. Hugs, cuddles and kisses however, not so much. In a culture where preserving “face” and appearances is of utmost importance, there is a major emphasis on always keeping your cool, being proper and composed. They might steal a kiss or two when no one’s looking, but in retrospect the Asian male would much rather prefer it behind closed doors. Even more so for a woman. Whether it’s their demeanor towards the public eye, or how they choose privacy over strong lustful urges, it’s easy to assume Asian males are more conservative when it comes to showcasing their emotions. Theories explain that this dates back to the nature of Confucian teaching or Vedic Scriptures – where displaying one’s emotions publicly is not encouraged. Some boys may not mind it but still awkward.